Addicted to Sugar?

thin woman eating sugar directly from a spoon

There is a great fear that people now have:

Am I Addicted to SUGAR??

Diet fads come and go. The most recent fads are being gluten free, and breaking “addiction” to sugar.

I’m here to tell you that you are just as addicted to sugar as you are addicted to BREATHING! NO, you are not addicted to sugar!  If you were TRULY addicted to sugar, why don’t you just go eat it straight out of a sugar bowl? Sure, it tastes good, and you enjoy eating things that are sweet. But those same things are generally in a package or combined with fat, and sometimes ALSO with salt. Hence the new fad of eating pretzels that are covered in chocolate- or salted chocolate products.

When you’re under stress, that’s the time when you reach for something sweet. It makes you feel good – it’s a treat. In fact, the first food that you eat as an infant is “mother’s milk”. The combination of sugar, fat and protein in human breast milk is very close to another food that women in particular have a hard time saying “no” to: ice cream!

Diet gurus are again into another one of their Diet Industry Lies scheme to make you feel powerless and out of control by telling you that you are an addict! Actual addiction is characterized by a continuous or an increased dependence for a particular substance in the body. Furthermore, it is accompanied by the experience of a physical withdrawl when someone stops using that substance.

This again shows you that you are not addicted to sugar. Yes, there is an emotional pleasure that is derived by eating sweet food. But there is not a physical addiction to sugar. You don’t go holding up banks because you need money for sugar!! Physically you may detect that you feel more lethargic when you stop eating sugar, but that’s probably because of a drop in your blood sugar which will level off over time.

Your brain would not be fed adequately without glucose. In fact, thinking uses a higher amount of glucose than any other body part:

Glucose is virtually the sole fuel for the human brain, except during prolonged starvation. The brain lacks fuel stores and hence requires a continuous supply of glucose. It consumes about 120 g daily, which corresponds to an energy input of about 420 kcal (1760 kJ), accounting for some 60% of the utilization of glucose by the whole body in the resting state.

This is the opposite of your muscles which actually store glycogen. And glucose is the preferred fuel when you need burst of activity.

In fact, your brain’s need will over ride the body’s need for glycogen. If you are walking up a steep hill and doing complicated mathematical computations, you will have to stop one or the other activity.

Bottom line: you DO need sugars, just as you need protein and fat. If you want to be healthy and happy take the middle road- balance in all things. Don’t over do, don’t under-do. Do just enough – in all things.

When you are stressed and feel like you are out of control because you “need” a sugar fix it’s time for stress relief. I have a great program that helps you deal with stress eating so that you don’t  feel the need to stuff your feelings with food! You become more resilient and able to handle situations that would ordinarily make you reach for a candy bar or ice cream. Read about it, and see if it’s for you!

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New Years Resolutions You Can Keep

The Same New Year’s Resolution AGAIN?

Every New Year we make resolutions, and time and again, we make the SAME New Year’s Resolution: I’m going to lose weight, and get into the best shape I’ve ever been. The first week after New Year’s Day gyms were filled to capacity- in less than 2 weeks after that there are less people attending.

The Definition of Insanity is: “Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”

Every year it’s the same resolution. And this time of year the Diet Industry has you so programmed that each new diet gets your attention and you want so desparately to believe that THIS time, THIS diet will succeed. But until you learn that the diet itself is the problem, maybe you’ll also realize that NO diet is going to give you “the final solution” of a permanently slim body.

But unbiased RESEARCH will show you that 95% of ALL diets are doomed to failure. Your body’s biology is putting the weight back on, to prevent you from starving. Yes, it’s a survival mechanism that Mother Nature has built in to keep you alive!

Furthermore, weight loss is such a complex issue that there is no agreement on HOW to lose weight! And even though it seems obvious that eating less and exercising more will allow you to lose weight- it may do it temporarily, but nature will put those pounds back on you eventually.  Eating less and exercising more is a recipe for one thing: REGAINING weight! Each time you go through this cycle of dieting/exercising and regaining the weight, it will add ADDITIONAL pounds that will make you heavier! It’s like the definition of HELL- especially if you are unhappy with your body, and blaming all your problems in life on your weight.

To add to situation, the stress you are experiencing from hating your body, starving yourself, and maybe over-exercising is actually sabotaging your ability to lose and maintain any weight loss! You need a STRESS DIET! 


I’m going to be totally honest with you. There is NO GUARANTEE that you will ever be able to maintain weight loss. Look at “The Biggest Losers” who lost weight. They’ve all regained it! Look at poor Oprah who has struggled with her weight for years! She’s on yet another diet – and I guarantee you that the weight will return within 2 years.

You undoubtably don’t want to hear this. For some women, this is like hearing you have an incurable disease. In some cases women have said that they’d trade 5-10 years of life to lose weight. How sad is that??

You may leave this website because you’re not reading what you want: that you can lose weight fast and be thin for the rest of your life. Even that “lifestyle change” that you read about is phony- because once a stressful event comes up, it’s almost impossible to maintain that “lifestyle change”.  This is subtle and the hardest thing to understand is: eating when you’re not hungry is a SYMPTOM of stress– And it’s impossible to stop a symptom because you haven’t dealt with the CAUSE of the symptom: STRESS. The only diet you need is a STRESS DIET! 

The Best New Year’s Resolution

The overall best New Year’s resolution you can keep is manage your STRESS!  Self-criticism, negativity, shame, and anger directed at yourself because of your weight or other things in your life can affect your weight!  Over or even under-eating is often self-medication for being unhappy. Stress management is a muscle that needs exercise before you’re stressed! The Stress-Diet program has been tested and found to be an effective way to lose weight for many people – WITHOUT DIETING! 

Managing stress means learning to love yourself NOW, not WHEN you lose weight. You are the same person in your heart- and your dog will love you the same in fat jeans, or skinny jeans.

unconditional love from a dog whether you are skinny or fat

If you can’t love yourself unconditionally, GET A DOG. You will learn what love is- and total acceptance. It will lower your stress level, and let you know that you are loved for who you are. Anyone who doesn’t accept you the way you are is NOT your friend. Be your own best friend – make that your New Year’s Resolution, and keep it!


You can do it!
Happy, Healthy New Year to You!


one-thing-preventing-weight loss


Why YOU Can’t Maintain Weight Loss

A successful (because she’s making lots of money- not because her clients are maintaining lost weight) weight loss doctor did a three hour program explaining how the reason you can’t maintain weight loss is all in your brain: your lack of will power. I listened for a while, but got so angry that I wrote this letter to her. She even suggested that instead of eating you should help the hostess serve and clean up the food at a party to keep your mind off eating.

This program is not only flawed, but it’s insulting. Do you REALLY think that over 95% (the speaker quoted an even HIGHER percentage) of people have no willpower?

Yes, will power is a factor to help make choices in life- but it’s not the factor in weight loss. I’m so saddened for Dr. Susan Peirce Thompson who believes that having a slender body is worth giving up the part of her life of enjoying food, eating with her friends and every other aspect that thin people don’t have to compromise about to maintain a thinner body.  Is it her belief that only thin people have will-power? 

Our society has developed a bias against people who don’t conform to being the “right size”. It is such an internalized preference that it makes them unable to SEE truths! “Believing is seeing”. They will argue unceasingly, that being past this acceptable weight limit is unhealthy- DESPITE REPUTABLE research that is done by actual scientists who don’t “gain” monetarily by finding that being fat is bad. Yes, the diet industry makes at least $60 BILLION a year marketing a product that has a success rate of less than 5%!

“Studies from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention repeatedly find the lowest mortality rates among people whose body mass index puts them in the “overweight” and “mildly obese” categories. And recent research suggests that losing weight doesn’t actually improve health biomarkers such as blood pressure, fasting glucose, or triglyceride levels for most people.”

But women, primarily, are willing to starve themselves to achieve these standards – that they will NEVER be able to permanently maintain! In fact women questioned about the importance of being thin said that they would be willing to shorten their lives 10 years to be 10 pounds thinner! This is a disgrace.

Besides genetics and epi-gentics being a fundamental issue regarding adult weight, there are many studies showing that conditions that a child 0-age 6 lived under will also be a large contributing factor in weight in their lives (ACE long term studies). Twin studies show that twins separated at birth, never knowing the other twin, weigh within a pound of each other and not the family with which they were raised. Even economic factors play a large part in an adult’s weight. You don’t see many “over weight” rich people do you? And they have not only access to, but exposure to fine foods, parties and events where they are not helping the host clear away dishes in order to prevent themselves from eating!!

And finally the real issue: Although it is CLEAR that stress affects the metabolism: (for examples see studies from Robert Sapolsky, Ph D. regarding stress with baboons); and stress is a primary factor in economically challenged or poor people; and stress is the factor in epi-gentic findings that the pregnant mother’s stress level affects the fetus; and stress is a factor in the ACE studies of childhood upbringing; and stress is the factor in people being rejected and scorned and laughed at by society – and of course I could go on…. Dr. Thompson thinks we should just “say no” to nurturing ourselves with food – even though life doesn’t offer nurturing of any kind to the person who is plump.

There are programs that deal specifically with STRESS RELIEF that impact people with weight issues: but promise no guarantees of weight loss, no dieting, no foods to avoid, no denying oneself when hungry. For some people, they will lose weight. But for many, their bodies are their bodies, and they will never be thin. The profound stress that is relieved is from trying to fit into other people’s standards in order to feel like a worthy human being. For me, I think that is the most important thing in life- accept yourself the way you are. The people who judge you are mean and shallow – or seeking to make a buck on your misery. Don’t become like them and judge yourself harshly because your body doesn’t conform to society’s standards of beauty.


Is dieting a stress in your life? Is dieting contributing to your inability to manage your weight and live a happy, productive, and successful life? Let’s talk about it and end that issue!

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It’s All In Your Head

A doctor putting a stethoscope to a person's head as they are meditating

If you’ve been dieting and can’t lose weight:

your doctor may tell you that you don’t have a thyroid problem: “It’s all in your head.” That is said by doctors who don’t understand that they are actually CORRECT! The things you believe and feel emotionally affect how your body is responding! That’s the basic foundation of Mind/Body medicine!

 How Stress Affects Your Weight

The way you have felt about your body can change the way you metabolize foods, change your hunger levels, affect your sleep (maybe the biggest cause of people gaining weight) – essentially it creates a background of STRESS in your mind/body. In order to manage your weight, you need to get off a food diet, and go on a STRESS DIET.
Everyone feels stress from time to time, but when it is unresolved it becomes chronic stress- and that is really dangerous for your health and well-being. Stress can come from your lifestyle, under-eating or over-eating, over-exercising, being financially challenged, working in a job you hate, having relationship problems or anything else. Multi-tasking and rushing, OVERdoing are creating stress. Probably the biggest stressor is not being true to yourself and honest with yourself.
Understand what makes you happy and take responsibility for it. You are ALLOWED to have your own needs and not have to live up to other people’s opinion of how YOU should live or be. You don’t have to LOOK like everyone else. Realize that dieting to look like the models and actors you admire is brainwashing from society. If you weigh more than others it may actually be your genetic body type. You are YOU. If you have problems with being unhappy with your body and have body image issues, I HIGHLY recommend you read DIETLAND by Sarai Walker. It may make all the difference in the way you accept yourself.
You can eat the healthiest diet, but under stress it turns to poison in your system. Bottom line: Manage your stress; be happy; forgive and accept yourself the way you are: and watch yourself get healthier and maybe that will impact your weight- but maybe not, and that too, can be alright.

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A MUST read for any woman whose been on a diet

Most women I know have body issues. They’ve been on a diet, or they are chronically “watching their weight”. Many women have closets full of different size clothes: fat clothes, skinny clothes and clothes they are hoping to wear again. It’s more like a torture chamber than a closet because every time you open it you are sad and judge yourself as a failure. Does your weight control your self-esteem?

Have you ever read a book that changed your way of looking at life or your body? I’m a reader- lots of non-fiction and fiction books. I recently picked up a book, “Dietland” by Sarai Walker.  I write and talk to women to encourage them to appreciate their body the way they are right now- not after dieting, and I think this book will have a tremendous impact, more than anything you can do to change your opinion about your body.

This fictionalized story brought me a whole new way of viewing the totality of women’s focus on dieting and on body image. It’s the story of Plum, a young, depressed, fat woman living her life waiting to have surgery to remove her excess weight.

It’s a “youthful” style or writing; entertaining, and provocative to say the least. (If you don’t like “f bombs” and strong language and descriptions of sex, this book may be not for you)  Many times I actually had to stop and take notes because of the enlightenment the story brought to me.

If you are a woman who has ever been on a diet, a person who is unhappy with her body; if you have ever been shamed by others, told to diet, humiliated because you’re not thin, I strongly encourage you to read this book. This book may open the door to your understanding of dieting as an important Feminist issue.

Please write to me and tell me what you think of this book….

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Do You Love To Eat?

Do you have a big appetite?

You may think you can’t stop eating, but you what if you want to lose weight? There IS a way to eat the food you love, and not gain weight!

Mindful Eating As A Stress Relief Tool

You can use eating food mindfully, as a stress relief method!  That way, you will enjoy your food, and realize when you’ve had enough to eat, instead of eating mindlessly. When you are focused on your food, you eat more slowly, and your stomach has a chance to get full! You end up eating less, but NOT dieting, and NOT being hungry!

It’s up to you- just stuff food in your mouth mindlessly, and not enjoy it- or eating slowly, mindfully, enjoy your food, and end up eating less. That can translate into losing weight, and maintaining the weight loss – all WITHOUT Dieting!
You can do it – and I can help! Subscribe, to get my free report! Get more tips – and lose the weight by losing the stress!

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Stop Emotional Eating

This is a webinar put on by HeartMath’s Deborah Rozman, Ph.D. and Sheva Carr describing the very effective Stopping Emotional Eating program developed by HeartMath®.
When you overeat, or eat because you’re stressed that’s emotional eating. It’s been estimated that 75% of people gain weight from eating due to stress. And being stressed can slow down your metabolism and make you gain weight EVEN IF you’re not over-eating!
emWave2 personal stress reliever - a biofeedback type of deviceIt’s imperative for you to gain mastery over stress. Lianda’s programs INCLUDE using HeartMath’s biofeedback type of device: emWave2 Personal Stress Reliever to give you power to stop binging and over-eating. And it will give you resilience to manage stress that normalizes your metabolism, improves your sleep, your mood and even physical symptoms.
Lianda goes even further with giving you “the skinny” on reasons you are having trouble losing weight and keeping it off. “Tap” into your heart’s power with EFT and HeartMath- the perfect combination to get off the yo-yo diet cycle and start eating and enjoying the food you like and need.


Want to get started? Contact me to get your emWave and free training session and consultation.


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Overweight Diet Guru

diet gurus who are overweight after following their dietsLearning from an Overweight Diet Guru: Diet’s Don’t Work!

You want to lose weight. No, you are desperate to lose weight. If you are just a 5 pounds or even much more, over the weight you want to be, and you are desperate, I can tell you now, you are headed towards BIG fat problems.

Why is that? Because, desperation is a negative emotion that is stressful. And the real cause of overweight is STRESS,  which can lead to eating too much food, or it can just slow down your metabolism even if you don’t change what you are eating, and increase your weight .

Would you listen to an overweight person telling you about which diet works best?

Maybe you should! Because, IF they are being honest,  in all probability that overweight person has been on EVERY diet you can think of, and they were not able to maintain their weight loss: even on their own diet! Your body has a mind of its own: the same mind that makes your hair grow, your eyes blink and makes you breathe even if you are trying to hold your breath.

That mind in your body is insisting that you gain back any weight you lose because it’s preventing you from starving to death! And that’s actually healthy- you want a body that’s going to fight disease to keep you alive. You want a body that’s going to conserve calories if there’s not a lot of food available  (if God forbid, you were a refugee without much food available!).

The diet industry is making billions dollars a year promoting the newest and best new diet and exercise to rid you of excess weight. For many people these diets are successful- but only for a short time!

The diet industry doesn’t tell you the most important information. It’s not losing weight that is important, it’s maintaining weight loss that counts.

What would you do if you KNEW that each time 95% of people lost weight no matter WHAT DIET they went on, their pounds would return and bring along with it a few additional new pounds onto your frame? If you are like most people, you would go on the diet and believe that you’d be in the 5% that don’t gain the weight back. You may think that the other people didn’t have discipline; that they didn’t exercise enough, that they followed the wrong diet plan; that they didn’t make a “life-style change”. But you would be wrong.

Consider this: there are humans all over the world who eat different types of diets; some plant based, others that only eat meat and small amounts of plants (Eskimos), carb based (rice- most of the Asian world with very little meat) – and there are thin people and there are overweight people. What’s the difference between them? STRESS (and genetics).

Want to lose weight and keep it off?

DON’T go on a diet! Don’t make yourself miserable by foregoing parties, going out to eat with your friends, and missing your own birthday cake!  Go on a stress diet by eating mindfully, and increase your chances that you’ll actually lose and maintain weight loss- but the best thing of all- You’ll improve every other aspect of your life with lowered stress and increased resilience to the things that are stressing you out! Want to learn how to eat mindfully? Read my book: Diet Industry Lies that Make You Gain Weight…. and come start reducing stress with an Make It So Mindset’s Mindful Stress diet while enjoying the food you love.

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NY Times Finally Tells the Truth about Dieting

multiple bodies from skinny to fat

This article is really important- even for people whose weight has never been an issue.
I wish this information were taught to children starting in elementary school – and all the way through college. It would have prevented me from dieting myself to overweight. It would have stopped me from blaming myself for regaining weight after every diet. It would have convinced me to stop stressing over my body. It would have changed the whole course of my life.

Is there someone whose life you can change by freeing them from maniacal, roller coaster, yo-yo diet cycle that just ends up creating the very thing you want to avoid – being overweight?

I wish this article was studied in MEDICAL SCHOOL- instead of having to deal with doctors who are constantly telling people to “lose weight” and telling their patients that “being overweight will kill them!”

Wouldn’t it be great if you could give this to people who are telling you to eat less and exercise more? Wouldn’t it be great if they read this article and would finally stop them from judging overweight people as lazy, slothful, and unable to control themselves? Could learning this information finally stop us from making fun of overweight people – as the last politically correct group that can be shamed?

What do you think? I feel like making copies of this and carrying it around to give to people buying diet food and falling for the Diet Industry Lies. I’ve been writing about this for a long time- but when the NY Times publishes an article, people are more likely to believe that.

Read it all the way through and finally FORGIVE yourself. Work on changing your mindset: Love yourself the way you are. Eat mindfully and enjoy your life without punishing yourself for not having the perfect body. You can make your own Mindset


Your Appointment with Destiny

mother and daughter, inherited body type


This famous old story may give you insight into your own life:

The Appointment in Samarra

as retold by W. Somerset Maugham [1933]

 The speaker is Death:

There was a merchant in Bagdad who sent his servant to market to buy provisions and in a little while the servant came back, white and trembling, and said, “Master, just now when I was in the marketplace I was jostled by a woman in the crowd and when I turned I saw it was Death that jostled me.  She looked at me and made a threatening gesture. Now, lend me your horse, and I will ride away from this city and avoid my fate.  I will go to Samarra and there Death will not find me.”

 The merchant lent him his horse, and the servant mounted it, and he dug his spurs in its flanks and as fast as the horse could gallop, off  he went. 

Then the merchant went down to the marketplace and he saw me standing in the crowd and he came to me and said, “Why did you make a threating gesture to my servant when you saw him this morning?” 

 “That was not a threatening gesture, “ I said, “it was only a start of surprise.  I was astonished to see him in Bagdad, for I had an appointment with him tonight in Samarra.”

What is your life’s appointment with destiny?

On the occasion my mother’s birthday, a thought came to me. My mom is gone almost 7 years now, but I think about her, and still miss her daily. My mom was very paradoxical. She never felt pretty; she felt her nose was too big, chin jutted out a bit. But she had great confidence in her body. Her size D breasts gave her lots of confidence and she looked great in clothes.

However, as she aged, my mom “filled out”. I don’t have memories of her being a thin person, although I saw her photos from when she was a girl, and a photo when she was a WAC in the Army during WW2. She had a knockout body on a 5’8” frame. All the later photos of my mom showed a loving, happy, significantly overweight woman.

Although thin, fit and strong in my youth through my 30’s, I feared more than anything, getting fat. I was always ashamed of my body. My butt was prominent and round (although not fat), and my chest was flat. I had curly hair when only straight hair was “in”. And I wore glasses from the time I was eight years old. (remember those pointy cat glasses with little fake diamonds in the side?- GEEK alert!) My self-esteem was not great, and I had very few friends, especially not in the “popular crowd”.

I was always into sports, but unfortunately for girls growing up in the 50’s and 60’s, there weren’t a lot of team sports available for us. Sure, we could be cheerleaders, but not the athlete who competed and got cheered for!  I spent my life exercising, playing sports and DIETING in fear of getting fat. My mother, on the other hand said to me in her 82nd year, after her doctor told her that she needed to exercise to help with the back pain that plagued most of her life: “I never exercised, and I don’t intend to start now!” She also never dieted.

What is the meaning of this little story?

Despite being very opposite, my mother and I ended up in the same place. She was overweight (but not unhappy about her weight) her entire life. I am overweight (and working on accepting myself as I am- still a challenge and something I work on with EFT tapping, meditation and other methods). I dieted, in fear that I’d get fat, and guess what happened? I got fat. I damaged my metabolism by constant deprivation of enough food, and put on additional pounds after each diet I went on. I still have to remind myself to eat – I have classic yo-yo syndrome; metabolic syndrome. But my mom never dieted, was happy with her body, and ended up overweight!

Is body shape simply a reflection of the genetic body type you inherited? Are you going to beat your body to death trying to achieve a body type that can never be yours? You want to be taller, but you’re only 5’1″… Serena Williams will never have the body of her sister Venus, no matter what she does!fat-parent-overweight-child

My mother had back pain that eventually shortened her life because of pain medication she had to take constantly to make her life bearable. I have body pain from playing sports. But I don’t stop exercising – even though I KNOW from all the research I’ve read that exercising is NOT going to make you lose weight! 

Can you escape your destiny?

What would my body have looked like if I never dieted? Would I be average weight if I never fasted, tried every new diet- EVEN while I was a healthy average weight? Would I be feeling less pain if I didn’t exercise as much as I do? What would I look like today if I had never tried to change my body, and accepted what I looked like, and was just happy?

I guess we’ll never know. But I do know that it would have been more fun if I hadn’t skipped all those birthday cakes, fattening meals and other foods I avoided because I didn’t want to gain weight and get fat. I guess I ended up in my own Samarra.

Are you, or have you tried to alter your appointment with destiny from fear? It’s just what the Law of Attraction tells us: the things you focus on – especially from fear, are what you create. Instead of focusing on the thing you fear, take your thoughts and goals to a positive outcome. And even if you don’t achieve your goal (of permanent weight loss- because 95% of people who diet cannot maintain that weight loss), at least you will be happy along the journey.